We are not our results.
I see this time and time again in my work, women attach themselves to their results.
I'll give you an example that happened to me a few years ago.
I ran a webinar and there was just over one hundred people on this webinar. It was the first time I was using this software and I had practiced and practiced this new webinar content repeatedly beforehand.
I wasn't selling anything; this was just a goal setting workshop. I asked for feedback on it because I was it was the first time I had run that workshop.
And it went completely wrong. Other people could see my slides, but I couldn't. The tech kept freezing. I had no idea what my attendees could see.Half the group got kicked off the call and then they came back. Some people didn't come back on.
It was just horrendous. It was the worst webinar that you could possibly imagine in the universe. Everything just went wrong. Honestly, I just completely ugly, cried my eyes out as soon as it finished.It was terrible. And I wish that I hadn't asked for feedback.
But, when I was finally brave enough to look at those emails, at the feedback comments that came in, I had six people from that webinar that said it was really helpful and they wanted to know how they could work with me further.
I have been sitting there over-thinking, feeling like the biggest failure and that I couldn't do this, and no one would ever want to work with me. I’m not good enough, not smart enough, all the things.
Yet, for six people, I was exactly what they needed. My work made a difference.
What we do is we attach ourselves to the result. To me, the result was a disaster. So, I was a disaster.
In all honesty, even though it wasn't the best webinar. It doesn't make me a failure as a person, right? It's just feedback.
I never used that webinar software again. Right. But I've run much more successful webinars since then. We grow. We evolve. We get better. You must start somewhere.
It's really scary to start. But we need to do that.
You never know what's going to happen while you're on that way to failing, you know, you might impact somebody's life and it might change their life.
We are not our results.
Who we are is not defined by our failures. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you taking action. Our actions produce results. Those results give us feedback. We can take the feedback and use it to grow, evolve and improve.